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Rise of the sides: how Grindr finally recognized gay men who aren’t tops or bottoms
Every month, nearly 11 million gay men around the world move on the Grindr app to stare for sex with other men. Once there, they can scroll through an endless stream of guys, from handsome to homely, bear to twink. Yet when it comes to choosing positions for sex – a crucial criterion for most homosexual men – the possibilities have drawn-out been simply superior and bottom. The only other selection available toggles between those roles: verse (for versatile).
“Not fitting those roles has made it really tough to locate someone,” said Jeremiah Hein, 38, of Long Beach, California. “There’s no category to choose from.”
“Whenever I’d look at those choices I’d think, ‘I’m none of those things,’” said Shai Davidi, 51, of Tel Aviv, Israel. “I felt there must be something improper with me.”
Last month, however, that finally changed. In mid-May, Grindr added a position called side, a designation that upends the binary that has historically dominated gay male culture. Sides are men who discover fulfillment in every kind of sexual act ex
What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his research into what direct women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to dig deeper and outline out a true list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the same-sex attracted and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities offer in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The same comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
Top 10 Things Gay Men Should Discuss with their Healthcare Provider
Following are the health issues GLMA’s healthcare providers have identified as most commonly of relate to for gay men. While not all of these items apply to everyone, it’s wise to be aware of these issues.
1. Come out to your primary healthcare provider
In request to provide you with the best care doable, your primary care deliverer should know you are gay. Knowing your sexual orientation and sexual behaviors will help your healthcare provider offer the rectify preventative screenings, and decree the appropriate tests. If your provider does not seem comfortable with you as a gay male, find another provider. You can consult the Homosexual Healthcare Directory for aid finding a provider.
2. Reducing risk of getting or transmitting HIV
Many men who have sex with men are at an increased risk of getting HIV, but the ability to prevent aquisition and transmission of HIV has improved drastically in recent years. If you are living with HIV, anti-HIV medications can help you inhabit a normal lifespan and prevent you from transmi
In June , TNI’s Lou Cornum brought together three writers to discuss what’s really going on in queer lamentations of a top shortage. The conversation has been edited for length.
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LOU CORNUM. Is there actually a top shortage? If there isn’t a top shortage, why do queers talk about it?
KAY GABRIEL. I think on the one hand "top shortage" doesn't actually name a numerical situation so much as a general disidentification from "top" as an avowed sexual position; and that this tendency derives from a highly overdetermined disavowal of desire. Being (or avowing oneself to be) a bottom allows one to assume an visible passivity with respect to one's desires, at least according to the ideologeme whereby bottoming means "taking" and topping means "giving." I should clarify here that I'm using top and bottom in their robust sense of sexual roles, rather than the (I think equally illustrative and somewhat clearer, if also clearly curtailed) sense of who's the insertive and who's the receptive partner, who's fucking whom.
BILLY-RAY BELCOURT. However tenuous its relation to sta