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Cruising
This blog was written by our Sexual Health Outreach Worker, Chris Dunbar.
Sometimes, having sex in the secure confines of your bedroom just doesn’t cut it. You may be looking for somewhere new, inquiring thrill or adventure, or just not be fit to have the sex you want within your four walls. You may have heard someone converse about cruising, or include been asked if you want to go, but what does it actually mean?
Let’s have a watch together at what it means, the laws, and general safety if you do decide to offer it a go.
Definition
Cruising is walking or driving about certain areas, called cruising grounds, looking for a sexual partner. These meetings are usually one-off, anonymous encounters.
Cottaging is a legal title used to describe anonymous sex meetings in widespread toilets.
Where do the terms come from?
Cruising: The pos originated as a same-sex attracted slang term, sometime in the early s, as a way for people who knew its definition to arrange sexual meetings. It was a way to plan sexual encounters without attracting the attention of people who may wish to report t
Secret Signals: How Some Men Cruise for Sex
Aug. 28, &#; -- While many Americans may only be vaguely familiar with the idea of "cruising," there is a secret planet of sex between men that exists in universal places across the country.
The police officer who arrested Sen. Larry Craig, R-Idaho, in a men's restroom at the Minneapolis airport for allegedly looking to engage in gay sex wrote in his June report that he "recognized a signal used by persons wishing to hire in lewd conduct."
Craig tapped his foot up and down and swiped his hand underneath the bathroom stall in which the undercover cop was sitting, according to the police report.
Those actions led to Craig's arrest by Detective Dave Karsnia and the senator's guilty plea to a disorderly conduct accuse. Craig told reporters today that he did nothing inappropriate and said his guilty plea was a mistake.
Public places like men's restrooms, in airports and train stations, truck stops, university libraries and parks, have long been places where gay and double attraction men, particularly th
The Freddie Guide to: Cruising
What is homosexual cruising?
Straight cruising is a vacay on a boat. Male lover cruising is the art of hooking up in common.
Cruising is almost always anonymous, and can be one-on-one, in groups, or with others watching. It’s done by using non-verbal cues to show you’re both interested – think of it like a classified, horny code. Some people will contain sex right there, while some may take their spouse to a more discreet location.
Where did cruising come from?
Cruising has a extended history in the queer community. There are recorded cruising spots in cities like Toronto, London and New York dating back over a hundred years. In the hour before gay bars, when homosexuality was illegal, public places were often the only option for queer people to meet each other.
Evidence for this often comes from prosecution records – we know where people were cruising based on arrests for “sodomy” or “gross indecency”. These were historic offences made to criminalize homosexual sex, and were almost exclusively applied to queer men. Sodomy and indecency laws were frequent throughou
CruisingProtocols
CapnDan writes: what protocol you employ, depends on location, that is, which CruisingAreas.
In a str8 bar
the standard technique is to buy the dude beer, chat him up, laugh at his jokes, and mention that you have something at home - dope or str8 porn is the usual.
In a washroom
- Give the guy some idea that you're wanking. Can be anything from casting a shadow of your wanking hand to allowing them to peep at your crotch thru a hole or the crack in the door.
- There is an old "tap foot" protocol for t-room stall cruising, but it's not much used any more. You tap, the guy in the stall next to you taps, you tap twice, he answers twice.
- I have heard of people using a "three flushes" protocol but never seen it in use.
In the vehicle with a hitch hiker
*Typically, if a guy picks you up hitch hiking at night and is chatty he wants something. If you are hitchhiking at night you probably want something more than a lift. Enable the guy lead the discussion a little, gauge friendliness. If you feel comfortable, say you wish there was a party to go to or you really dont fe